When spouses give the friend the friend married oaths, they promise to be in common in the mountain and in pleasure. Here only the household, on view of many young men, neither to that, nor does not belong to other category, therefore it is possible it completely and absolutely to pile up on fragile ladies’ shoulders. If such situation is not pleasant to you, it is possible to test it to change.
«Socks to erase – not mine to dig», «I earn means – you prepare and clean» – these and other phrases can be heard from young men who consider that a household – not man’s business. And after all in an economy there is a lot of work which asks at least obvious physical force – a sink of carpets, floors, repair of the broken things and an ill-starred zabivaniye of tacks. Scandals and dangers, naturally, the man you will not re-educate. But a little female cunning will help if not equally to divide all economic cares with the spouse then to involve it in process (which, by the way, finally can attract to it). Include patience, female wisdom and write down our councils. Not casual accident
Though what person can periodically fall ill, you not an exception. Nobody prevents you to take «unplanned day off» from homework that day on which at you general cleaning drops out, say. Express the confidence that your clever and zealous man is capable to prove the real knight and to make a huge part of work without the aid of others. If the spouse resists – do not press on it and do not row. Simply very much be upset. Better – heartily. It will be heavy to resist your tenderness and defenselessness. Having executed such responsible purpose, the man will feel itself as the real hero. On pickup Begin приучивать the man to an economy with the trifles – how it do with children. For example, it can promote you to inform bags («darling I bought your loved turkey by a dinner, but packages such heavy») to wipe ware while you wash it under pleasant family conversation to spread out ware on a table before a dinner. Eventually your blessed so will get used to be at you on pickup that, most likely, will normally react and to more global requests for the help. The shock therapy If seems to the man that to conduct an economy not so difficult, and its help in it is not required, try to leave – at least on
week. Three-four days of spouses, maybe, will exult to that it is possible to scatter socks and not to wash the dishes. And here in three days it by all means will begin to miss on a former order and or will begin to direct it, or will be ready to divide this fate together with you when you will return. Support its undertakings Meet any man’s initiative on an economy with understanding. Pick up it, emphasizing that maintaining a life is a common cause which it is possible to do not without pleasure. For example, if the spouse assumes a duty to take out garbage, strive on that the package did not tear on the road to a garbage tank – use high-quality and capacious packages from TM "Little things in life" with inhalings for comfortable carrying. Strong packages from TM "Little things in life" – volume from 20 to 240 l – will promote and with other problems on an economy. It is possible to disassemble, eventually, together with the spouse a store room which hands long since did not reach. Or to collect excellent things, from which kids grew to give them in orphanage. Such collaboration in target day forces spouses to feel itself as true team, pulls together and rallies. Praise it
To your man very essentially to be necessary and useful to own family. It is one of events which forces it, for example, with days to sit up on work if there is a possibility to receive increase and to provide to own family more worthy existence. A praise – the best proof of that efforts of the head of the family are accepted and estimated. The same concerns also a life. If the languid spouse found in itself forces to wash the dishes, it is worthy that even such small help did not remain unnoticed. We like to do that, for what praise us. If you have any claims to work of the spouse, try to rebuke in benevolent tone, without touching his emotions. But, it is necessary to consider that such methods of influence on the wife will work only in case the man truly loves you and is ready to "be re-educated" a little for the sake of comfort in the house and the world in a family. If the irresponsible egoist or simply person with printsipny belief got to you that the economy is a destiny of the lady, it is necessary or to reconcile to it, or to leave. After all a life it is concrete that, about what, according to the classic, the strongest love boats break even. As advertizing