The writer and journalist Ellen Notbom, the coauthor of the book «1001 thought on education of kids with autism and Asperger’s syndrome», brings up the descendant with autism. As mother it has the right to say on behalf of special kids. In own latest book «10 things about which the child with autism» it would wish to tell you impart experience education, Braysa and other kids knows about successes of own descendant, explains how to realize the world of the kid with autism and preconditions of his unusual behavior.
Ellen wrote the book for parents and kids, for neighbors and relatives – everything who is capable to take the 1st step towards to the person closed in own world. «Being mother of the kid with autism, I thought one thing: the unique predicted line of autism is the unpredictability, the unique invariable sign – inconstancy… The child with autism can look completely "normal", but his behavior can puzzle and cause bewilderment», – writes to Ellen Notbom. It is necessary for parents to realize that people with autism have everything the necessary properties to develop and achieve furor. The child will close in itself – means can occupy itself, it is thoughtless – means courageous, it is very accurate – means can organize the place. Povsevremenno asks questions – means stubborn and energetic. Ellen asks parents to answer a printsipny question: «Your child "suffers" autism or "lives" with autism?» Itself on for itself autism is not so awful. The condition of the kid which does not realize that occurs is terrible, does not receive the help and support and cannot lay down on understanding of the closest people. Having looked at the world eyes of the autist, ancestors will manage to discuss the difficult moments with teachers, friends, relatives, neighbors, with that having expanded a circle of contacts of the kid. Ellen divides properties of autism on categories: difficulties of processing touch инфы, an arrest of development and different violations of speech, weak abilities of public interaction and conviction questions in itself. Difficulties of processing touch инфы. It is impossible to expect from the kid that it is started to absorb knowledge, to study соц to abilities, somehow to "behave", when a place surrounding it consists of opposite and frightening feelings. If the brain of the healthy person can filter тыщи entering signals which arrive from organs of vision, hearing, intuition etc., the brain of the autist is not capable of it. Feelings from the world in what he lives, are comparable with life among a highway, in noise, ashes and a roar carrying by by wave, without ability somehow to influence a situation. Arrest of development and different violations of speech. If the child cannot express the requirements and desires, they remain unsatisfied. It will react, showing anger or a frustratsiya, resisting to training. Later weak abilities of public interaction can lead to complete isolation from people. Though it is necessary to try to make what probable method communication – to tell, show drawings, to say gestures or by means of the computer. The child with autism first tries to realize features of communication, and later – carefully them to repeat. Confidence in itself. The most experienced conductor which will help it to find comfortable, at physical level a comfortable place in the world is necessary to such child, but this work has not something in common with "correction" of the kid. It is necessary to adore and lead it, accepting it how we wish, that other people perceived us, – completely and absolutely. If it feels that you do not believe in him, it even will not try something to make. Each person – the adult or the kid has own special set of requirements. Therefore there is no 1st recipe of furor. Education of the kid with autism is a project which povsevremenno is in development, and hardly there will come time when it will be possible to receive a result and тормознуть. Autism does not define temper READ ALSO – Scientists test lechushchy means from autism At first, this is the child. It has autism, but it does not mean that autism – its main distinctive feature and the reason of all its weaknesses. At all kids the mood can sharply change and appear difficulties, all can be persistent and whimsical. It can adore, have preferences, fear and dream, as all people. Eventually he will manage to tell about it, and is not indispensable words. Do not allow the word "autist" to limit your ideas of the child and his future. It broke perception Ordinary sounds, smells, tastes and touches can painfully wound the autist. For it the surrounding place aggressive, very sonorous also consists of a mash of various irritants. The hypertrophied hearing accepts to a meeting all discussions, noise on a window, sounds of electrodevices, and to allocate from a noise stream a voice of the adult very hard. The ordinary sound can be intolerable. An imperceptible smell – another’s spirits, the hamster in a section, florets, food, a cleaner – can torture it. There can be a taste violation. At a hyposusceptibility the child eats everything that under a hand will turn up, at hypersensitivity – only food of the "correct" structure and temperature. Sensitive sight povsevremenno is exposed to attacks from a light source, a configuration of the illumination, moving or changing subjects. Tactile sensitivity is shown as discomfort when the clothes adjoin to a body or other people touch. Violation of vestibular and propriotseptivny system do difficult ordinary movement. They can test gravitational inconstancy and worry, if it is necessary to take at least a step.
That means "no" Ancestors povsevremenno face with categorical "no" the special kid. Does not do a request, does not listen to an explanation, does not stop to drum fingers on a table or to repeat words.« Is not present» is not refusal to execute something, and inability. There is a difference meanwhile that the child with autism does not wish to do and cannot execute. He listens to instructions, but not always them realizes. He realizes the instruction, but not always knows, how it to execute. He knows how to make, but action can be for it opposite. Not including that, he can fear that will not cope with a task. Of underwater stones of the words Child thinks types and everything realizes practically. To it jokes, hints, aspects, sarcasm, idioms and set phrases are unclear. Tell «it to make a cat laugh» and he will look for laughing hens. At the kid the head will go around if he hears «burned down on work», it "have Van Gogh’s ear for music", «swallowed language», «eyes got out on a forehead» … Speech should be ordinary and certain, without a cliche and incorrectnesses. Zamesto «you cold put on» – «put on заместо T-shirts a sweater», заместо «a billeting minute» – «wait for me on this place».« hang up it there "," clean feet», "be brief" is it is not simply impracticable, it is unreal. He will not manage to react to the appeal which for it is not meaningful.
There are no words At the kid with autism the small dictionary laid up, therefore it is heavy to it to express a request. It can be hungry, scared, diffused, but it is heavy to it to find suitable words, periodically it is simpler to it to say gestures. Even if the child says, as the doctor, and quotes difficult texts, he not completely realizes word meanings and "is covered" with them. This phenomenon is called "ekholaliya" and it helps to answer, when
to for you address. In other words, to be covered with the quote, if you do not know how to tell. Observe, in what cases the child uses an ekholaliya: to support dialogue, to ask about something, to be released, call a subject. Learn that specifically causes difficulties. It is better to show to Say hard. It is better to behold. To Zamesto of that to explain action, show, how it becomes – patiently, can be few times. Zamesto names use a picture, an image. The schedule of day in drawings, the menu in the pictures, beforehand made plan. The schedule orders day, establishes a framework for work and rest, and develops independence. Helps to realize that will occur now. Belief in furor Pay attention to that at the kid leaves, instead of to that for it while is unreal. When you criticize, to be trained in the newcomer not hunting. Essentially to find the positive moments and to develop them. There is a speech not about talent search, though it is not excluded, and it is simple about positive sides: is able to occupy itself, always puts things, cannot pin and talk scandal. Abilities of communication Help it to say. From outside it seems that the child autist does not wish to play with children – in fact he does not know, how to them to approach, start talking. Ideal option – if they will invite him. The autist does not read a face, emotions and gestures, does not feel intonation and irony. He can laugh, when someone will fall down or will hit. It occurs therefore that he does not know, how it is necessary to react. Train it to ask in such cases «to you not painfully?» A source of irritation Find out that causes control loss. For the kid of the hysteric, fit of anger, a nervous breakdown is much more painful, than for people around. They appear from an overload of systems of perception. It is necessary to look, keep the daily log and to learn that specifically drives the kid up the wall. The behavior, even bad is one of communication forms when devilishly there are no words. Something absolutely intolerable causes a hysterics. Opposite feelings, smells, reaction to food. Physical pain, horror, bad appeal, disappointment. It is possible to reorient behavior, having found and having eliminated the failure reason, or to train the kid to say: «Stop, it is not pleasant to me».
Simply love the Child did not choose to itself autism. Everything that with it happened, left with it, instead of with you, parents. He cannot stop to be an autist and without the aid of adults it will not gain suitable abilities. It is impossible, that the child felt that owing to own feature did not justify expectations native. Education of the atypical kid asks from parents and teachers of inexpressible patience and implicit love. «Autism of your kid, – writes to Ellen, – does not mean that he, you and all your family cannot lead the full, satisfied and real life. Naturally, you are at present frightened, but allow to believe for yourself, let even with obmolvka. What we can achieve with our children, in big degree is in dependence from with what we see them». In revival, 23.08. 2012 read continuation of this subject!