How to say with the child about sex?

How to say with the child about sex?

If suddenly you ripened for conversation on sex, it is not necessary to reprimand the child and to declare: «It is time to us to talk». The ordinary teenager will wave away from you as from a fly, and will ask that you released it from own old-fashioned sanctimonious morals. Kids from where undertake, he and without you knows. Ancestors and grandmothers of modern teenagers grew without ordinary knowledge about sex, all comprehended on personal experience therefore it is heavy to them to find words for a straight talk. In other words find words they can, but tell at the child "vagina", "clitoris", "masturbation", "sperm", "penis" to them it is heavy. "Infection", "pregnancy", "condom" is much easier to utter. But if seniors strive about health of the kid, they should provide it all important information." Whether there is at you a plan how to uplift the kid from infancy through the childhood in maturing when, like a lightning stroke, will strike its periods, its erection and a pollyutsiya? Yes, the child still sucks a breast, and I already ask, as (Janusz Korchak) For what about it will give rise …" to say READ ALSO – How to train the kid to be on friendly terms: the master class of Knowledge is more useful, than their absence. It is necessary for girl to know that such periods and not to be frightened, when it will begin. The boy should not be ashamed of pollyutsiya. The person whom вызнал all just right, treats sex as to normal process. Boys and girls will study the genitals; in a growing find out that by means of them it is possible to take pleasure. The person has the right to know, how it is arranged? To consider, what changes in mood are caused by a hormonal background? As one clever girl said:" When adults say to us about sex, they look at us zapyatanny eyes". It is necessary for parents to make all probable that the child sensitively treated own body and desires. Help it to pass with comfort the maturing period, to exult to own changing body and to accept wakening sexuality, as stately gift. When and how to have a talk In the 1st years of life the kid contemplates that genitals at girls and boys differ. At younger school will find out that men and ladies are differently arranged. At high school contemplates all in a cut in the biology textbook. If there were questions, it is impossible to leave them without the answer. Basic and neotklonimy subjects – physiology and personal hygiene. Do not expect awkward age to tell to the little boy or the girl about care of genitals, need to keep them clean and to wear in the winter warm clothes. Girls should know that during periods or the first sexy contact it is possible to become pregnant, the little boy needs to be able to take and put on a condom. It is simplest to say to mother with the girl, and to the father – with the little boy. If the child you is confused, let with it someone from your friends, the person causing trust will have a talk. The child should know that is to whom to address for council or the help. Ancestors it is inconvenient to them to say "about it", захочут it is simple to get out, having given lecture about sex of times in life. It is a formalistic approach, insincere and inutile. Information on sex is better for breaking into small parts and not to impose it, and to make a part of the general conversation. Use though what occasion – at present sex is everywhere. We look films with love scenes, we read books with sensuality elements, we listen to songs and we will come across everywhere in a web. Try not only to state only the outlook, well and to find out that the teenage child and his friends reflects on it. Many ancestors receive to teenagers of the book about sex, at all this it is necessary to explain that you give only information supplementing a picture of the adult world, instead of management to action. Sexuality is personal, at everyone the time and it by all means will come. Precisely and without estimates Say directly and honest, calling bodies and feelings the names and definitions. Any syusyukaniye and ambiguities should not be. Hardly there will be a person who refrained from sex as ancestors did not educate it. But in the world there are a lot of people who got sexy неуввязками thanks to parental limitation, an uzkolobost and a ban. In certain families it is not accepted to say about sex, but by all means let’s realize to the person that sexy difficulties are necessary for solving as well as any other. For example, дискуссировать with the partner. Sex it is excellent. By agreement and at a mutual inclination. Quite good sex brings satisfaction and happiness. Unsatisfactory sex is harmful for health and mentality. Safety issues of Sex can do a certain harm to health. Many children consider oral sex harmless because at all this virginity remains. They should know that though what exchange of liquids can lead to venereal diseases or HIV. Discuss need to be protected and contraception methods. It is not necessary to have sex, as all so do; under the pressure of the girlfriend or the guy; to grasp popularity or to hold own friend. If the lady is released from sex with the guy, to it not by all means to explain the reason." I do not wish" is and there is a reason. Avoiding the direct answer, it can give incorrect hope. If the person became the violence victim, he should not blame or be ashamed of itself(himself). It is necessary to address for the help to parents, doctors and the psychologist – to specialists who will promote to overcome trauma consequences. A little about consequences Modern kids early achieve a sexual maturity and late marry. It is clear that all this time they cannot be kissed only, обыматься and hold the handle. Tell to children that sex will lead to changes in their life. There is a speech not about pregnancy and the birth of the kid. Any affairs structurally change, as in them the sexy component is added. To leave or quarrel with the friend it is much simpler, than to endure parting with the beloved. The physical proximity does the person defenseless and if something goes not so, and in youth the such happens pretty often, pain probably will appear intolerable. You should look for words that the child after parting did not become isolated in own experiences, did not throw study and did not earn complexes. It also is responsibility of the adult – to support own kid a languid minute. It will acquire that sex – advantage of adult life is not simple, well and self-checking, work on emotions, ability to show emotion is excellent and reserved. The kid who is carrying out researches on a sexy field, should not have no fault and shame. The person in sex is liberated, and though what adult knows that it is impossible to take pleasure in a bed, is conclusive without having trusted in the partner. Sex is a science, the love is an art. It is necessary to be trained to receive and grant pleasure. For this purpose there is a mass of literature, the description sexy the technician and more skilled partners. You would wish, that your descendant was the tender and skilled lover, instead of the diffident egoist? That your daughter was the happy sensual lady who perfectly treats men? The person who has realized the sexuality, will manage to be realized in life. Yes, in life there are pleasures, without considering sex. But sex – a basic component of life. One of segments to which are added spiritual development, professional realization, social successes – and in common they will make the whole orange of full and healthy life. Personal experience "When sons were malekhanky, the mother-in-law taught them it being necessary to write and said:" Take in the handle own flower …" Somehow it is walked on a botanical garden, I show:" Look, what flower!" Boys were indignant, did not believe:" What it is a flower? Florets – too a flower?" Understood later, it is natural". (Elena, 35 years) "I am happy with own life, but hate
the youth. These awful spots, pollyutsiya, 1st sexy experience … I am happy that it in a past". (Konstantin, 50 years) "Have a talk about sex some years back when the daughter went to summer camp. She was 11 years old. We have confidential affairs, and everything that it interests, I tell it". (Ira, 35 years) "The daughter of the girlfriend asked to present it for day of the birth the book about sex. Chose "The sex bible". Any ban was not. About sex always said, as about love continuation. As naturally the girl received the 1st experience, said to mother that it was pleasant to it. In my opinion, this main thing". (Tatyana, 36 years) "Years in seven ancestors presented to me the book. The phrase was remembered:" Tato m_tsno-m_tsno цілу є mother, розлітається on тисячу malekhanky шматочків, і one з them потрапля є at mother". I guessed that nobody breaks up to molecules, and this trope". (Sergey, 25 years)

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