How to parents truly to react to remarks of teachers?

How to parents truly to react to remarks of teachers?

Ancestors wish, that at school the kid had no remarks, the conflicts to teachers and quarrels with pupils. As to say, the it is less than claims to the child from school, the atmosphere in a family is quieter. In particular painfully perceive remarks ancestors of pupils of elementary grades. Mothers and fathers malekhanky and still while the poslushlivy kid idealize it and expect only furors. It becomes frequent entry in the diary for parents a shock. In the main thing the such happens in families where the correct ancestors, grandfathers and grandmothers motivate the kid for good study and the successful future. Or very busy ancestors take a position: do that you want, but that remarks were not – I have no time these to be engaged. Ambitious ancestors know that their child the best, and perceive his trouble, as the personal defeat. Not to react painfully and not to worsen a trauma of the kid, it is necessary to realize: that occurs in school walls, occurs not to you, and with your child. Everything that in a condition to make mother or the father, is to listen, train to agree, forgive, defend the outlook. The remark in the diary is a wish or a cry of the teacher about the help. For parents two extremes idiyentichno are incorrect: to side with the kid and to side with the teacher. Ancestors on the party of the kid are necessary for the School student support and a zaintrigovannost of parents. It is most ideal to show enthusiasm in confidential conversation. Absolutely not by all means at each comfortable case to interfere with its affairs with the teacher and to speak to the teacher, what business your child is worthy. The faultless school does not happen, always that-nibudt will be – many tasks, the terrible teacher, languid physical culture, awkward school desks, silly kids. Following the tastes of the offended kid, it is possible to change a class, the teacher, school, some schools. But it is even more important to train your baby bird to overcome difficulty in conversation, and here it can not master without the aid of others. Specifically at school the child receives the 1st experience of the conflict and leaving from the conflict. Try (if you about it demand) to analyse a situation. In common reflect, where it is possible to arrive or express on another. Do not criticize the kid, say softly and patiently, impart experience. Consider: if you is conclusive side with the kid if trust only to it, it can tell you not all truth. Show that you respect the teacher, never respond about the teacher badly, do not discuss it in the presence of the pupil. If consider that with the child arrived unfairly and it is necessary for you to interfere, have a talk with the teacher without eyewitnesses. Clear essence of difficulty, listen to claims and state the outlook. Right approach: to support and protect the kid, but to do it alone with the teacher. Ancestors on the party of the teacher READ ALSO – Training of kids of school age of the house as a whole ancestors should support school. You in this school gave the kid? Means, with school rules familiarized and agree. But if the child knows that in any dispute you support adults, he will not manage to address to you for the help. Periodically there are situations which demand intervention of parents. For example, izymatelstvo or persecution from other kids. An insinuation on the kid when it appears in minority and on it dump another’s offense. Eventually, dispute with the teacher when against a word of the adult there is a word of the kid. He knows the history, and the teacher declares that everything was on another. Understand, whose word will appear more powerful? The child should know: where he cannot solve dely, you act on its party. Believe to it and be happy that a heavy minute to the child is to whom to address for the help. In special cases the child can be released to say about essence of the conflict and it is simple to ask to leave school. Not always ancestors should act as the judge and make the decision, but always should help the loved one who has appeared in an unsoluble situation for it. How to reconcile two parties It is chance for parents – to give to the child an actual lesson. In this case, if you are capable to agree, hear others, to be sorry and forgive. The teacher happens properly not the rights. He can simply be mistaken, as though what person. With it there "is" a slackness and mood. Eventually, it simply did the work. It is truly heavy – 30 not always benevolent teenagers, at everyone behind the back of steam of the adults, the read American psychologists. Believe, any teacher is not interested in conflict continuation. All of us go on life thanks to that we find friends, instead of we acquire opponents. Show on own example as it is possible to find common language, having conceded in small, to win generally. A word to the teacher «Nearly 50 years of work – and the 1st remark. Always reflected: I badly know parents, suddenly they will punish the pupil. It will incite it against the teacher, he will begin to try less, can retire into himself/herself. The teacher as the doctor, should not do much harm. Council to all teachers: never miss abilities to praise and encourage the pupil – and in a personal meeting, both in a class, and at meeting, even for small successes». (Alla Alekseevna, 70 years, French) «Just now wrote pair of remarks.« Did not listen to the teacher "," refused to write at a lesson». I hope, ancestors will read the daily log. To all children it is heavy after summer vacations, but in the 3rd class it is impossible to be fastidious, as in kindergarten. In a class there are a lot of children, I see, how to them it is heavy and as they try. I few times rebuked orally. And if I do not write down it in the daily log, the violator will win a victory. Not including that, I expended time which belongs to all on the 1st pupil: tore off a lesson, took the daily log, made entry. It is not so pleasant to me, but justice so is shown. We after all teach kids, what not it is necessary to encourage bad behavior, and for bad to punish». (Valentina Aleksandrovna, 34 years, teacher of elementary grades) «What ancestors? Yet did not suffice, that they interfered with educational process. Ourselves will perfectly consult. We have one indicator – firm knowledge. Ancestors that the child entered the institute wish, means – to be trained, work, simply to plow. There is a purpose, and I help to reach it». (Nina Anatolyevna, 60 years, the mathematics) «Yes, was noted. Made record «Yawned at a lesson» to the pupil of the 7th class. The mathematics – a severe subject, asks attention and intellectual efforts. Here it is necessary to think. If the pupil of half of lesson fights against a dream, it shows disrespect for me and neglect for a subject. Let his ancestors to sleep just right stack. This my right. The young man prevented us with class to work, and I shamed him before schoolmates». (Alexey Vladimirovich, 38 years, mathematics) «Sometimes it bezizbezhno. At present at school there is no assessment on behavior, line is cancelled. It is impossible to stand in the corner and to expel from a lesson. The daily log – the last chance of the teacher. Already in middle classes the child knows, what subject is necessary to it, and what is not required. With the consent of parents it misses on "unnecessary" subjects, distracting other pupils. In such cases the help of parents is necessary to the teacher. And it not request, this requirement: respect schoolmates, do not prevent them to be trained, break discipline. Though, in my opinion, at a lesson when all work, it is necessary to equate idling to a truancy». (Svetlana Mikhaelovna, 45 years, Ukrainian) Stories of parents «We in fear were, when Artem brought "Did not try". Abused, all achieved to do, generally pressed. Very much wished, that it was perfectly trained. And in a month it became clear that at it does not leave perfectly to write the bent sticks, as in a "m" small letter. It would be desirable, that the remark was not simple the remark, and the
recommendation for parents – to that to pay attention and than to promote the child». (Tanya, 32 years, descendant Nikita, 7 years) «All of us learn from witnesses when we take away Sascha in school. She is the active and mobile girl. Once kids skipped on a class, and the teacher of all punished, put at a board. Sascha asked not to say to the father, but a pricker in a bag will not conceal. The father led discussion. Explained, why at school it is necessary to behave decently and to respect work of the teacher, apparently, then it changed the relation to study. More complaints were not». (Lydia, 35 years, descendant Sascha, 8 years) «Bothered these remarks. I try to understand, but if complaints to behavior, always, according to Denis, повинет not it. Someone began the 1st, in it threw a piece of paper, took away a writing-book … I read and sign and what to do? I think, the bad behavior is a form of a protest or protection. Perhaps, the teacher does not respect pupils. There was a case when the teacher accused the descendant that it changed own option control. The writing-book broke off, me in school called. When understood, it appeared that in day control it was ill, work wrote separately from a class, and the teacher put a writing-book in the general pile. Three years it does not miss ability to remember:« This mother always protects own son». And запамятывает that it was wrong, and periodically the kid anybody, without considering mother, will not protect». (Lena, 35 years, descendant Denis, 15 years) «The diary small does not specify a year. Considers that the adult. In the main thing of the remark because of clothes. If wears a uniform, tries to decorate itself – a belt with a flower, a tie, a picturesque hairpin. As the man I consider that it is normal – for the maiden essentially to consider the feature and appeal. As the father I will tell that it is trifles against that kids choose specialization as we have a humanist, and obtain permit to spit on arithmetics and physics …» (Andrey, 40 years, Natasha, 14 years) «I simply react. I call the teacher, I speak, thanks, we talked, shamed but what to do? This is the boy, it that fast. Earlier voobshchy did not obey, and only at present, your efforts, thanks bolshushchy, he worries that you afflicted … And all are happy. The teacher knows that it heard. And for me the main thing that the child freely developed» (Tatyana, 35 years, Sascha, 11 years)

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