Why one of us are happy in love, and others are not present? matter is not in luck as many reflect. The love is a talent. It needs to be found and developed in itself.
To cherish in itself the kid
To people as sadly it would not sound, equal chances of love are not given. As the person will be happy in the relations, almost in everything the atmosphere which surrounds it in infancy and even earlier defines. Ability to adore and accept love is in dependence from primary trust to the world, and it is formed in a womb of mother and depends almost absolutely on her emotions. The person can not know that his emergence was not planned for light or it conceived from avaricious judgments, – about such it is not accepted to say. But it always prevents to open to other people, to fall in love. Unless you will change what was till the birth? Yes! It is necessary to depict a situation frankly. And to present people to whom this emergence on light brought and still will bring satisfaction. Very essentially, already being the adult, to fall in love with itself at that tender age. To have a look at the children’s photos and to tell the most gentle words which say to children. To return for itself that, on what there is a right at each person, – love.
To change everything to the best
For development though the freshest air, new knowledge, picturesque memoirs is necessary to what talent (including to talent to adore). Ancestors become the main example for all, usually. But completely can be, your feature asks other manifestations of emotions and
other relations. In the world there are millions, billion love stories! Means, it is possible to elect for itself for a standard that that is pleasant, and not to get under the power of the scenario written by someone to another. Ordinary story: mother raises the daughter one and is free or involuntarily inspires: men cannot believe, ladies with children are not necessary for anybody… But the daughter, growing, should not lead that life. It has full authority to think up for herself something more interesting: by all means there will be a beloved and the loving spouse and, for example, not one child, and three… The main thing – to present the history of the relations in all trifles and details, to words and gestures, not fantastic and fantasy, but very live and real. Stereotypes so collapse. And to make it it is possible at any age. If pursue idiyentichno opposite love situations, it is time to make for itself the latest life.
To be on a way to a standard
The confidence is necessary to talent. But doubts in themselves are necessary for it not less. They allow to raise and develop. A haughty position "I and so the most beautiful spouse, the best mistress, faultless mother and the hostess" breaks harmony in the relations. The person with gratitude perceives love and itself can be generous on manifestations of emotions. But in daily situations nevertheless it is more
expects to receive, than to give. For example, in a condition to give a beautiful gift, to write verses, to arrange a holiday for the beloved (beloved), but after quarrel for anything will not ask forgiveness the first. Pouts, if do not do its assignment, but itself it is simple запамятывает about a request of relatives. In the presence of guests it is affable and zealous, and during other time will mutter: "Not to you at present". Usually, those whom loved from youth (even quite good so behave happens much!) or already later, in adult life, not simply fell in love, and made object of worship. Than such behavior is unsafe? The spouse can admire the wife queen who has got used to a similar state of affairs, and the long time to expect her reciprocal business. But later will get tired, will decide to itself that all its efforts are vain, and at the moment of a spiritual rush will complain about life to any acute maiden. And the acute lady of the own will not miss. The person who has yearned on love, it is possible to take nude hands (has no value, the lady it or the man). So we will take care of own contribution to affairs. Let talent to adore it is shown every day – in the this case there are no trifles.
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To train feelings
The person will not find out about own talent of the chess player if it never to show chess. And on what to train ability to adore? On cats, hamsters, dolls. On mother with the father, other relatives. Embraces, kisses, gentle words, gentle looks – love manifestations we learn and we master in the course of communication. Or we do not learn. It is in dependence from behavior of people around, from family rules. For example, with inclinations everything is all right: the child and the beloved, and hotimy, and is not present practice. Ancestors were always reserved in manifestation of emotions: one gentle word in the afternoon, "good nights" in the evening, well still "good fellow" for excellent estimates. Growing, the person even is very placed and ready to build affairs. But to find out them, can identify not always. Does not catch the intonations speaking about love, does not realize that mean looks which throw on it. As a result simply does not go on contact – passes by, misses chance… Well and itself it is not strong in manifestation of emotions. Vanishes in words, very much worries, how it will be taken a detached view and that will think over it. Fenominalny situation!
The person is able and wishes to adore. But does not know how to receive this love and how to give it to another. What to do? We come back to… to cats! And not only only – speech about psychotherapy animals. With them we raskreposhchenny: the most terrible persons thaw, playing about with a dog on walk, watching kittens. Only it is not necessary to drag out training process. Quicker to people! They too like poglazhivaniye, gentle looks, even feeding from hands. And still recognition "I Love!".